blogs, instagram facebook are funny things – they can tell a lot about a person – what they are doing, what they like, but at times, you do wonder how much of it is true or how much is a persona. I too am guilty to this; I know that people may look at my feeds and say how lucky I am – I have a full and interesting life, always travelling, seeing things, doing things, but even I get blog/instagram envy, thinking ‘wow what a wonderful life they are leading’, and then realising that I am victim to the same thing. its a very British thing to always want to portray a perfect life and that things are going well, but then I look to myself and realise that maybe everyone has hidden problems, worries and anxieties and that this modern way of living is quite deceiving and harmful in that it makes us repress our true feelings. we have realised that there is widespread depression amongst the youth – has social media something to do this?
I admit that I have had the most stressful year of my life – a wedding, a child going to a high achieving university away from home, another child finishing uni, but worried about getting a job, a mother with increasing dementia – the list is endless – coupled with going through the time of change in a woman’s life, it really adds up to a recipe of anxiety, stress and high emotions. it hasn’t helped that I got a lot of skin allergies this summer, either it was the heat, the pollution, mosquito bites, topped with the added stress, but I suffered terrible bouts of excema /dermatitis like issues – some of which have got worst and some better. it not only caused me much grief and worry, but it impacted on my whole family. its not easy to look at one’s life and appreciate what you have, hormones and issues can really impact on your wellbeing, both physically and mentally and make you act in strange ways.
there were several things that I consciously did to lift myself out of the spiralling despair – take up meditation and mindfulness, speak openly with my girlfriends (some of whom I am sure got sick to death of listening), go out and find inspiration – I found sitting in made me feel worse, looking at your excema getting worse on your face just made me cry , which in turn made it even more worse. in all of this, I discovered that skin issues are difficult and complex for both alipathic and natural medicine; I tried everything, from acupuncture, to nutritional diet, kinseologist, dermatologist and even had to concede to using steroids, (which should be avoided but does calm things temporarily) especially around the time of my daughters wedding to clear up the face. what really helped was taking out the dairy in my diet, using Liz Earle cleanser and moisturiser for sensitive skin, washing with Dermol 500, chickweed cream (stellaria by Helios), and Dermalex. I have tried so many creams, some worked for a day or two, but the simpler the better. one lady, Tina Stonely – a nutritionist, was key to helping me understand about food groups and what I needed to avoid; she is living proof that you can keep youthful and healthy with good common sense eating. I seemed to have turned a corner recently and although the skin complaints have not completely gone away, they have definitely improved and I have learned how to manage them.